Sometimes leaving things unsaid and undone generates a promising solution to the problem
Human beings have a natural affinity to surround themselves with trustworthy, warm hearted and dependable people. A human being usually despises the rancid characteristics but adores the amicable traits of his fellow beings. Well, a deceitful creature has a hard time living in a civilized society. A human being consciously or unconsciously cultivates promising relationships with his fellow beings in a society for mutual growth and development.
Such human relationships are based upon trust, respect, honor, dignity and other gigantic values. Cultivation of such relationships becomes possible because people learn to fortify the roots of trust and commence respecting each other. However when any disruption occurs in such relationships owing to any breach in the trust, it becomes quite difficult to rejuvenate those relationships.
Since cultivation of relationships is a prerequisite for social beings, hence they can’t afford to oust them from their lives. In order to give a new lease to those significant relationships, human beings have to inculcate in themselves, the “attitude of forgiveness”.
The ability to forgive people is peculiar to human beings. A human being is regarded as the crown of the creation on account of the exceptional qualities he is bedecked with. One of the qualities of a human being is “Forgiveness”. Unlike wild beasts and other creatures, humans have the ability to be empathetic and forgive other beings.
Why people should forgive each other? You may ask! Well, a human being has every reason to forgive his fellow human being. Some of the reasons are explained below:
Revenge and bitterness
When someone hurts you, your perception regarding that person gets altered. That negative experience is more likely to trigger negative emotions and your brain gets compelled to harbor resentment, feelings of revenge and pernicious bitterness for that person.
Such negative feelings are absolutely noxious for a human being. They cull the tranquilly and wipe out the faculties of a human brain. In order for a human being vanquish those negative forces, he has to inculcate the attitude of forgiveness. Forgiveness brings balminess and peace in life. It reduces mental stress and helps an individual oust the feelings of resentment and bitterness from his brain.
A betrayal shouldn’t taint a human’s soul. It shouldn’t pose threat to his spirituality, kindness, empathy, the ability of giving and accepting love and other significant virtues peculiar to a human being. Forgiveness wipes out the chances of death of such stupendous virtues of a human being. After forgiving his fellow being, a man’s spiritual growth occurs. His morality upsurges and his heart drown in sea of tranquility.
We can’t afford losing friends and significant others after developing petty opinion differences. We have to be flexible and apprehend the importance of social relationships. Forgiveness helps us to keep the bond of relationship intact. It heals the flaws which hamper the progress of relationships. It brings peace in a person’s life and makes him a sociable and dynamic human being.
When you forgive people, your self esteem increases and peace ensues. The towering self-esteem of forgiving people is an evidence for such claim. With such a significant self-esteem, you can reach your goals in a stipulated amount of time. Hence, we may say that the use of forgiveness is the best self-help and most valuable tool to defeat daily stresses of life.
Deen-e-Islam infuses motivation in its followers for practicing forgiveness and preach peace and brotherhood. It is obligatory for a Muslim to develop forgiving attitude and fortify the relationships of love, peace and dignity.
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) was known for his forgiving attitude. He (PBUH) never took revenges nor did he (PBUH) harbor resentment, bitterness and allied emotions against people. There are numerous incidents documented which acclaim his (PBUH) marvelous forgiveness he (PBU) teemed with. Hence, being his followers, we need to follow his teachings and practice forgiveness in our lives.
In the holy Quran Allah says, “O you who have believed, indeed, among your spouses and your children are enemies to you, so beware of them. But ... if you pardon and overlook and forgive - then indeed, Allah is forgiving and merciful,” Quran 64:14. Hence being Muslims we should forgive each other and make no time for making plans of revenge or hurting back.
Just because a person is forgiving doesn’t mean he is coward and scary of taking actions when he is wronged. Forgiving people are not cowards and the people who get betrayed are not fools. Sometimes leaving things unsaid and undone generates a promising solution to the problem. A person with lofty aims doesn’t injure his nervous system by fussing over petty issues nor does he harbor bitterness in his beautiful brain. Indeed the top achievers inculcate in themselves, the attitude of forgiveness.
No matter how hard people hit you, their treachery, their gifted agony, the flaws, the consequences of deception or the unprecedented emotions shouldn’t tempt you to snub the virtue of forgiveness.